Be The Real Juggler
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My very first post in 2019.
And it's May.
Well, sometimes ignoring the personal target and just do it whenever you want to do it feels so good too.
These are my third year of working in digital industry. Since it's a super fast phase kind of job, I should be thankful that I still managed to remain sane and keep juggling between motherhood and work life. My son was going to Kindergarten last year, I started volunteering at church, and life couldn't be any busier. It surprised me in a good way, and even better when I see this from other point of view.
Last month I had a Instagram DM conversation with one of my fellow workmate in the company that we both have left. She's now move to one of the biggest Silicon Valley company and she's always be my crush girl ever since we still worked together remotedly (I work in Jakarta and she's in Hanoi). How can a young girl can be so pretty and smart at the same time? I am not that surprised when saw her Linkedin's update. But still, it's the workplace every millenials would have kill to be got a job there.
We didn't talk about job, we talked about something we have in common : being a working mother. I will not share much about how she deals with that, but here's what I told her:
"I am far from a perfect mother. And in my opinion, it's rude to ask a woman to choose between career and her child, because the battle we go every single is already hard. But, here's what I do to counter such the burden of a working mother. It's a privilege to be a wife, a mother and a worker. Sometimes I totally forget about this but when I remember how lucky I am as a woman, it sparks a bit joy. And it's more than enough to overcoming the pressure. "Surprisingly, here's her response ( more less):
"Thats why I envy you. You seem able to balance everything very well. Very peaceful."
And I was like :
"Whaat? I never feel balance, everyday what I feel the most is : how good I am at juggling from one thing to another without accomplish anything. Glad to hear that you find that peaceful 😂😂😂"
Actually her judgement about my 'balance life' is only from Instagram Stories, so shouldn't be proud of that because in Instagram everybody seems to be happy, rich, beauty and we all know that's mostly a LIE. haha.
My point here is, living our fullest of our live might be as simple as just be who we are. This conversation maybe a two cent among those working mother advice, but for me it's what keep me real and simple. Be grateful by small things like the numbers of books I read until this May has exceeds the number of books I read last year (What an achievement!). As woman, sometimes we need to be less hard to ourself :)
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