Balada Mencari Asisten Rumah Tangga

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Ernest Prakasa, comic favorit saya pernah menjadikan topik susahnya mencari pembantu sebagai materi stand up dia. Dia punya teori gimana kurva demand dan supply pembantu udah ga wajar, melebihi busa transfer Liga Inggris. Well, mungkin lebay tapi itulah yang terjadi. Sebelum menikah saya punya idealisme tidak mau menyerahkan pengasuhan anak saya ke orang lain, kalaupun terpaksa paling ke ibu atau ibu mertua. Tapi seperti kebanyakan para ibu bekerja lainnya, idealisme ini tinggal kenangan. Saya ga mau bahas tentang alasan saya tetap bekerja instead of membesarkan anak sendiri full di rumah karena pastinya akan berujung pada debat stay at home vs working mom oleh para ibu-ibu di dunia persilatan. But, as you read this post I just want you to know that I am a working mother who dying to be a stay at home mother. I look at my friends who raise their children without any help from babysitter atau pembantu, and I do feel envy. But, don't get me wrong, I am also proud of my circumtances of being a working mom. As long as my husband still taking his side on me.

Oh.great. I've already explained.

So, kembali ke topik. Kerja ataupun stay di rumah, ibu-ibu yang masih menggantungkan nasib jemuran dan kebersihan toilet rumah kepada seorang pembantu pasti setuju sama Ernest. Pengalaman saya sendiri cari pembantu (dan sekaligus buat jagain anak selama saya bekerja) baru dua kali. Dan saya harap cukup dua kali saja.

Selama tiga bulan cuti melahirkan, saya benar-benar menikmati mengurus Rion sendiri. Jauh dari orang tua maupun mertua, membuat saya fokus belajar jadi ibu baru. Banyak pertanyaan dan kesalahan tentunya, tapi thanks God temen2 di kantor yg sdh lebih wahid soal motherhood terus memberi semangat. Belum lagi ibu mertua saya yang berprofesi bidan. 

Ketika cuti 3 bulan hampir berakhir, saya dan suami pun mulai pusing mencari penjaga bayi. Seminggu sebelum masuk kerja saya masih blm dapet 'embak' padahal saya perlu training dia, supervisi sebelum saya tinggalin anak sendirian di rumah bersama orang tak dikenal. Akhirnya, H-1 kerja secara ajaib saya dapat penjaga bayi yang mau harian, pagi sampai sore saya pulang kerja. Dia cuma disupervisi ibu saya seminggu, habis itu cukup deg-degan juga ninggalin anak seharian sama dia. Untungnya kantor ga terlalu jauh jadi bisa pulang setiap siang, dan ada tetangga yang baik hati mau bantu mengawasi kerjanya si embak. Sayangnya 5 bulan berlalu dan tiba2 dia ga datang ke rumah lagi alias resign. Ga ada track record mencurigakan sih selama kerja, tapi saya yang panik karena ga mungkin dapat gantinya dengan cepat sedangkan di rumah ga ada yang jagain Rion. 

Bersyukurnya ibu mertua beberapa bulan sebelumnya menawarkan embaknya, mbak Kus yang dulu menjaga adik ipar saya yang jaraknya 14 tahun sama suami. Jadi kurang lebih mbak Kus ini sudah kerja hampir 13 tahun. (pertanyaan Matematika dasar: jadi berapakah usia suami saya? 😂 )

Alasannya karena adik ipar udah mau masuk SMP dan jasanya udah ga diperlukan. Mau nangis rasanya pas telpon minta mbak Kus ke Cikarang buat jagain Rion sementara belum dapat embak pengganti. Singkat cerita, mbak Kus tinggal bersama kami selama kurang lebih 6 bulan, dan selama itulah saya belajar banyak bagaimana kita bisa punya hubungan yang baik dengan orang yang bekerja di rumah kita. Mbak Kus juga banyak mengajari saya tentang banyak hal. Saya kagum tentang loyalitas dia sama ibu mertua saya, di saat banyak orang tanya sama dia 'kok betah sih mbak' (don't ask me why😂😠). Saya juga takjub gimana dia begitu sayang sama anak2 ibu mertua saya, sampai mereka menganggapnya kakak tertua, termasuk suami saya. Dan secara tidak langsung, saya jadi seperti belajar banyak langsung dari ibu mertua saya lewat mbak Kus. 

Selama beberapa tahun terakhir dia dikursusin sama mertua saya supaya bisa mandiri. Pertama kursus jahit, tapi ga suka lalu pindah kursus salon. Nah disinilah mbak Kus menemukan passionnya dan nenjadikannya peluang bisnis. Hasil salon kelilingannya udah melebihi penghasilan dari kerja sama ibu mertua. 

Selang beberapa bulan mbak Kus jagain Rion, akhirnya kami ketemu dengan mbak Yani, dmbak yang jaga Rion sampai tulisan ini dibuat yaitu sekitar 15 bulan. Is she the one we're looking for?

Hope so.

Sejauh ini anaknya rajin banget dan yang paling penting, Rion mau dijagain sama dia. Bahkan kadang-kadang saya takjub bagaimana gadis lulusan SD ini bisa dengan mudah menerima nilai-nilai parenting yang kadang-kadang ibu-ibu lainnya (tetangga di kompleks misalnya) belum bisa terima. Contoh, tentang program TV. Kebanyakan orangtua ga sadae kalau program Adit dan Sopo Jarwo itu ga oke buat anak-anak seumur Rion. Begitu saya share *ceileh istilahnya* ke mbak Yani, dia setuju dan bilang "Iya, itu jelek. Bagusan Upin Ipin. Tapi anak-anak jadi ngomongnya Malaysia semua ya bu.."

Dia peduli dengan apa yang ditonton sama Rion. Kalo udah waktunya kartun ga bagus itu main, dia matiin tv kalau ga cari di tv sebelah yg kartunnya lebih ok. 

Saya dan suami klo lagi ngobrolin tentang embak kami ini, suka nyeletuk 'semoga mbak Yani betah dan jadi keluarga baru kayak mbak Kus ya'

Kuncinya satu kalau kata ibu mertua saya. 'uwongke' atau manusiakanlah asisten rumah tangga.

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Ocehan Rion

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Ibunya Rion: Gambar apa dek?
Rion           : Ucing.. (Kucing)
Ibunya Rion: Ooo..kucing kakinya berapa?
Rion          : duaaa..
Ibunya Rion: Lho kan empat, yang dua lagi kemana?
Rion           : gigit..
Ibunya Rion: digigit?
Rion           : (ngangguk)
Ibunya Rion: digigit siapa?
Rion           : Iooon!! 

 Anak saya carnivor abis ya permisah.

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Fullness of Life by Angela Rachmat #TWC2016

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Beberapa waktu kemaren diberi kesempatan ikut Treasure Women's Conference dan sangat diberkati dengan apa yang dibagikan oleh ibu gembala JPCC, Angela Rachmat. I love the way she present the simple idea of fullness of life in such a great way.

Thankyou suami tercintah udah mau beliin tiketnya. Tiket tahun depan udah kan bi? :P

Please enjoy!

Fullness of Life 

Kelimpahan.

Do not compare apa yg kamu lakukan dg yg orang lakukan, demikian sebaliknya.

Perbandingan yg benar adalah:

Apa yg sehrsnya kita lakukan tp tidak dilakukan?

Apa yg bs kita beri tp tidak kita beri?

Kita tdk hidup utk sekedar eksis dan bertahan hidup.

Tujuan kita hidup adalah melebihi garis standard, krn pengorbanan Yesus terlalu mulia utk kita hidup dengan biasa2 saja.

That's the fullness if life.

Dont spend your life searching for the purpose of life without making your life count.

Hidup adalah untuk berbuah. 

The fullness of life is about:

#1

Its not about what you have, but what you do with what you have

Matius 25:14-30

Perumpamaan tentang talenta

Engkau tidak hrs punya yg terbaik utk menghasilkan yg terbaik.

Yesus tetap memberikan yg terbaik yaitu hidupnya, sekalipun Ia berada di tempat terburuk dan paling hina.

Matius 25:25 (TB)  Karena itu aku takut dan pergi menyembunyikan talenta tuan itu di dalam tanah: Ini, terimalah kepunyaan tuan!

Takut.

Hidup bukan berdasarkan perasaan. 

Tuhan tdk memprtanyakan apa yg tdk ada di tanganmu.

Much means nothing if you don't do anything.

Fullness of life is not about having much. 

Segala sesuatu dimulai dari benih kecil di ladang kehidupan kita.

Satu langkah iman sangat penting. Jangan khawatir dengan sedikit apa yg kamu miliki saat ini, karena itu adalah benih. 

#2

Its not about how busy you are but how productive you are

Productive = fruitfull.

Living purpose instead of being busy. 

Don't just be active, be effective.

We need to do something, not we need something to do. 

Your purpose is discovered when you use your gifts and strenght for honorable reasons.

#3

Its not about what happen to you but how you respon what happen.

Yeremia 29:11 (TB)  Sebab Aku ini mengetahui rancangan-rancangan apa yang ada pada-Ku mengenai kamu, demikianlah firman TUHAN, yaitu rancangan damai sejahtera dan bukan rancangan kecelakaan, untuk memberikan kepadamu hari depan yang penuh harapan.

Kenapa hal buruk terjadi, padahal rancangan Tuhan bukan rancangan kecelakaan?

I dont know.

Apakah Tuhan hanya sekedar janji? Apakah Ia tidak peduli? Apakah Ia berdusta?

I don't think so.

Dengan apa kamu merespon?

Kemarahan, kekhawatiran, penyesalan?

Respon hidupmu dengan iman.

Tanpa iman kita tidak berkenan di hadapan Allah.

Iman adalah perjuangan.

Secara natural kita tdk suka dengan perjuangan. 

If you dont fight for it, you wont get it. 

Roma 8:5-6 (TB)  Sebab mereka yang hidup menurut daging, memikirkan hal-hal yang dari daging; mereka yang hidup menurut Roh, memikirkan hal-hal yang dari Roh.
Karena keinginan daging adalah maut, tetapi keinginan Roh adalah hidup dan damai sejahtera.

Apakah Roh Tuhan ada di dalammu?

Uthe, you are stronger than what happen!

Yesaya 41:10 (TB)  janganlah takut, sebab Aku menyertai engkau, janganlah bimbang, sebab Aku ini Allahmu; Aku akan meneguhkan, bahkan akan menolong engkau; Aku akan memegang engkau dengan tangan kanan-Ku yang membawa kemenangan.

It's up to you. You can curse or respon well.

Fullness of Life = fullness of God. 

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Ocehan Rion

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Rion : (nunjuk lampu) Baa-bu.

"Lampu sayang."

"Baa bu.."

" Lampu. El el el "

" El el el."

"Lam..."

"Lam.."

"...Pu.."

"..fu.." ( mulai..)

"Lampu!"

"Babu!"

(Iyain aja deh ya.)

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Passion of the hardworkers

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"There's no subtitute for the hardwork." Thomas A. Edison

Nothing makes me excited and inspired but watching people doing their job with passion and love. The musician who writes a great song and post it to Youtube. A mother who rise her children, take a brave decision to educate them by self-homeschooling instead of sending them to daycare, and capturing the moment with them through Instagram. A lifestyle blogger who used to be a fashion student and making her career step in a big company. Those film makers, that I don't know how many days (and nights) of their hardwork before I see them on cinemas.

I smell a little envy while writing this. Envy is the edgy words of young generation todays. Yes, I do envy, but I hope it's a good envy. I don't want their life. I am content with mine. As I have to go through the hard times finding the balance of work life and my family, I know it is not easy to be on their shoes.

Everyday I tap on the screen and finding their life on the feed. At the same time, I find encouragement. Keep doing the best of you, my inspiring-hardworkers people. You might don't know anything about me, but I can dance more in the rain and finding the rythme of the universe because some little piece of encouragement ( even you didn't realize it is) you post.
You don't know when the the time of your passion is turned into a good job making other's life better. 

Thankyou.

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How many time in your life do you want to be a perfect mom?

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Like millions?
Someone has honestly said that I have too much on my plate. That's hillarious. In a pathetic way.
I am a person who want to beat myself everyday and actually doesn't need someone to tell me that fact. I've already know. But, who cares enough to take some things from there?
It is not easy for me to say YES to others (I've learned so much about this) but saying NO to myself is rough.
Maybe someone out there having the same feeling?
There so many nights I came home late and looking at my sleeping son. My heart broke and broke again.
So, for all the people who just jumping into a woman's life and judging her life as a working mother, you have to try fighting the same battle we do everyday. Leaving our own kids to someone else at home definitely not something to be proud of.
But the question is the same for all moms. How many times do you feel like want to be a perfect mom?

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I hate being a woman who cry at work.

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I hate to write about this but after a deep calculation of the possibility of my boss reading my blog, I give it a shot.
Yeah, you read the title right. As a working mother, crying at office should be something 'normal' but I tend to disagree with that. I know of dozen reasons we can be so sentimental about. Kids are sick at home, nanny's issue, or just some misunderstanding dialogue with husband about who supposed to take the day off to take care of the children. And when you come to office with all of them, nothing could be worse than another misleading communication with your boss or staff. That's are the best reason for some employer to not hiring women.
But still, in my opinion women should be as professional as men at work. Eventually, I have to admit that it's in our blood as woman to cry. At least in the women's toilet.
Last week, I did successively cry in front of my boss. After a series of women's toilet crying, this is definitely CRY. He remember to offer me a tissue but he kept continue his speech of what I should do and I didn't. I had nothing to say. Some part of his words are correct (that it was my mistake), but at some point I feel like it's not fair. He's very good at making me feel bad and useless. All I do is to help him, but it seems I did nothing. And the best part is, he said that he doesn't want me to have traumatic experience with him, but I answered (in mind) 'You are too late, Sir. Like a several months late. I've already had trauma since the first week I directly work with you.'
And a week later, in a waay better mood he asked me: Do you hate me?
I don't know where the gut comes from but I did answer: No pak, I don't hate you. But sometimes I hate being work with you.
Guess what, I didn't get fired. Thanks God.
Instead, we had a quite nice conversation about what really happen between me and him as an employee to her boss. He said that he trust me to do the best, and the thing is whenever I have something to discuss with him, it's like my fear of his presence is too much more than my effort to really give a good idea about some project. He even said that our relationship is more of Student-Professor relationship than Employee-Boss.
Ha!
So it is about my age all the time. Hehe. Just kidding. No, my point is crying at office is not always something bad. I know it depends on the boss and company culture. Crying is one of our emotional act as a woman and when you have a little emotional bond with your job, or everything you work on, may be you love them more than you know.
Everytime I have a problem at work, I want to run away. You know, after all those days and working hours leaving my son at home, I really need a very good reason why I still choose to be a working mother. Loving my job is fair enough.
Let's cry at work!

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I can be a better wife #ByeTumblr

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I always shed a tear  when I saw a woman who loves her husband so greatly, adore him, and could say ‘I love you’ just through her eyes. They deserve their husband. Do I?
My husband deserves more but yet, yes, I can be a better wife.

This morning, I found that someone has done the dishes which I left on the sink the night before. I am living this house with my husband only.

I went back to the bedroom and looking to a sleepy head I call husband and lifetime bestfriend. I kissed him to say  thank you. And sorry.
Why?

I was so tired and have a little ‘silet treatment’ to my husband. it’s all because he came home from work and the very first thing he’s doing is open the computer and….. work again.
I know. I am so unmatured.

It takes eleven-months-of-marriage for me to understand that my husband is ALWAYS beyond my expectation. I always expecting someone who care for me all the time ( especially when you’re 15 weeks pregnant!). But what happen today was overwhelming me. A lot.

yes, I devoted my life to love this man. Today and for the rest of my life. 

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Thanks a Minion #ByeTumblr

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Hi! It’s Thanks giving!

I live in a country who doesn’t celebrate it, but I think I’ll give a small thought about it.
I live in Indonesia.  Bali, (if it more familiar with ), is only one of thousands beautiful travel destination in here. Give it a visit and you’ll know why I love being here for my 25 years life time.
In Indonesia, we say  ‘Terima Kasih’  for  ‘Thank You’.
Terima means Receive.
Kasih means Love.
So, when you said thank you to someone in Bahasa, you show them that you’ve received their love.
Cute? I know :p
And here I come writing my received-Love list from God.
In the other word, this is how I say THANK YOU GOD  :)
  • Thank You for  who I were, who I am and who I am going to be. Every time I look back, I am extremely thank God for He never leave a second in my entire life.  The childhood, teenage dream, love story, and many more huge things ahead.
  • Thank You for my best friend who crazy enough to marry me. The marriage –which had always turn on my ‘heavy topic’ alarm- has become the most exited journey that I’ve never imagine before. Thank you, hubby, for loving me this way. I have a lot of laugh, tears, angry, fight  and everything, a lot enough to strengthen our Friend-SHIP.
  • Thank You for the miracle that growing up inside me now. ( I am in week 19, yeay!)  Thank You for never stop believing me to do such a great job as a woman.
  • Thank You for showing me that wife-life is not about a mountain of laundry or dishes in the sink (which often lead me to a day full of complaining) but how You give me strength whenever I think I’ll never make it. Thank You for never give up on me, especially when I try to beat myself.

That’s all?
Of course not.
I have a proper job, great friends who keep their arms on my back,  the most inspiring parents in the words, a lovely family-in –law, everything.
But the greatest of all, I know that my Savior who redeemed me keep His eyes on me.
Terima Kasih Yesus
(Thank You Jesus )

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My first Tumblr Post: Einstein Quotes #ByeTumblr

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new in tumblr.my first post. and i choose Albert Einstein to be my first topics. really adore the way he looking into this life and still surprising for me that Albert Einstein is dyslexia. These are some ‘wow’ quotes from Albert Einstein.
  • “Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius – and a lot of courage – to move in the opposite direction.”
  • “Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
  • “Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.”
  • “I want to know God’s thoughts; the rest are details.”
  • “The hardest thing in the world to understand is the income tax.”
  • “The only real valuable thing is intuition.”
  • “A person starts to live when he can live outside himself.”
  • “Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character.”
  • “I never think of the future. It comes soon enough.”
  • “The eternal mystery of the world is its comprehensibility.”
  • “Sometimes one pays most for the things one gets for nothing.”
  • “Science without religion is lame. Religion without science is blind.”
  • “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”
  • “Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from weak minds.”
  • “Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler.”
  • “Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen.”
  • “Science is a wonderful thing if one does not have to earn one’s living at it.”
  • “The secret to creativity is knowing how to hide your sources.”
  • “The only thing that interferes with my learning is my education.”
  • “God does not care about our mathematical difficulties. He integrates empirically.”
  • “The whole of science is nothing more than a refinement of everyday thinking.”
  • “Technological progress is like an axe in the hands of a pathological criminal.”
  • “Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding.”
  • “The most incomprehensible thing about the world is that it is comprehensible.”
  • “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”
  • “Education is what remains after one has forgotten everything he learned in school.”
  • “The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.”
  • “Do not worry about your difficulties in Mathematics. I can assure you mine are still greater.”
  • “Equations are more important to me, because politics is for the present, but an equation is something for eternity.”
  • “If A is a success in life, then A equals x plus y plus z. Work is x; y is play; and z is keeping your mouth shut.”
  • “Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I’m not sure about the the universe.”
  • “As far as the laws of mathematics refer to reality, they are not certain, as far as they are certain, they do not refer to reality.”
  • “Whoever undertakes to set himself up as a judge of Truth and Knowledge is shipwrecked by the laughter of the gods.”
  • “I know not with what weapons World War III will be fought, but World War IV will be fought with sticks and stones.”
source: http://rescomp.stanford.edu/~cheshire/EinsteinQuotes.html

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Bangga Dengan Produk Lokal: Kacang Dua Kelinci #ByeTumblr

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Last month I went  to my hometown, Pati. It is a very small town in Indonesia that I oftentimes need to explain how to get there from another town that more familiar when anyone ask me ’where is your hometown?’ :DD

And..

I found something  good to share here. PT Dua Kelinci, the official sponsor of Real Madrid comes from my lovely hometown, Pati..tadaaa..X)

I kinda a little bit chuffed of that of course..>:D
I visited ‘KiosKelinci’, a mini market that sells every product of Dua kelinci in an attractive package (like a parcel) and souvenirs like t-shirts and mugs in DuaKelinci’s theme. I took the picture with 2D Luis Figo (yeah, I know that’s absurd).
Go Pati go..Be pride of Indonesia.

moral message: success doesn’t depend on the place where do you come from, but the place where are you going  to be :)

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Selling Curiousity #ByeTumblr

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my mother is a seller. we have a little shop sells every daily need in our house. I had been an assistant for my mom ,since I was six :D And for those years what I could say about selling is ‘people need something, and you have it’. Something I meant here is a real things. Meals, cigarette, ice tea, soap.
But, you know, these days people need something more. And some people even sell more.
Curiousity

This was what i’m thinking about when i bought two stuffs below:

1. Maicih chips from Bandung
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I bought Maicih  because  a friend of mine told me it has ten levels of  extra hot spicy . yeah ten levels. I decided to choose 5th level, tasted it and..
it’s &$($$##*$&()(&*&*!! 
my tummy was burn. haha..
two thumbs up for the creator of Maicih, they successfully sells curiousity ..>:D

2. Pancake Company
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Pancake’s Company sels their pancake, poffertjess and many more, right accross the house of my boyfriend. They open daily at 6 pm and at 9 they’ve already put their 'sold out’ board. Three times I went there with my bf without buy anything and disappointed, because they’ve already sold out. I was like :OMG. And said my bf  “ that’s their strategic, making people curious” .

yeah, genius..
anyway, if anyone from Maicih or Pancake’s company read this blog, I wanna say :no offense, please :DD Your pancakes are so yum and yum, and Maicih..you’re so HOT.. :)) I meant it.

gud evening people..stay curious..

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Everyone has their fave movies. So do I. Definetely, maybe. #ByeTumblr

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O yeah..

 I know it’s been a very long long time since I wrote the last time. I’m sorry tumblr, you have to share my attention with my brand new husband.
 Yeah, I’m married now J

 Living a life with a fulltime job and full-of-love husband needs to be care of obviously not a life I’d call ‘ a happy life’.  Everyday I woke up at 4.30, prepare the foods and comute to the office. My afterwork daily routine is wash the dishes, ironing, house cleaning and…fyuh.
How can these stuffs called a happy life? I’d rather call it a Thank-God-Life. Because, you know. Without God, I’m nothing. With God, I can do anything. Yeah, quoting Paul  with different version of mine. :p

 Let’s enough with a happy wife writing. I want to write down my opinion about a movie. As I did before, I love to review a recently year ago movie. Why? Because I’ll love to write something I really love to see. And I guess everyone has their most favorite movie that they don’t mind to watch over and over without getting bored. So do I.
 And now, please welcome my second favorite movie after Julie and Julia…Definitely, maybe.


 Starring Ryan Reynolds (oh..I’m melting with the sound of his name) and three gorgeous women. Elizabeth Banks, Rachel Weisz, and Isla Fisher.
 When I’m upset. I watch this movie. When I dunno what I have to watch, this definitely, maybe does a really good on  my mood. I have to thanks to Adam Brooks that got Abigail Breslin into her best act as Maya ( Will’s daughter ). She did a big part of this movie’s beauty plot. She want to know why do her mom and dad had a divorce. I love when she began with a question. ‘Dad, what brought you and mom in love? | because she’s smart, beautiful, and fun | So now she’s stupid, ugly, and boring?|’
 

 That’s a very smart question from a little girl. Be careful with your marriage, fellas. You know that your kids maybe are smart enough to ask the same question when you guys decide a divorce.

 Then this magic question brought Will’s memories to the day he met three women he was in love. And he did like a mystery story telling to Maya and she had to guess which one is her mom.

Four of four person that had watched this movie gave the wrong answer. So did I. Yeah, I thougt that was April. (huh!)
Good story line. Good cast. 

 *yok dipilih-dipilih, siapa mamanya Maya ya?
 
And what makes me so love this movie? Because, it offers a true love. I don’t really believe love at the first sight. I know true love is true best friend. It’s simply because of you have no idea about living a life time with someone who (was) love in you but you still looking for a best friend.
I proved that theory with my marriage now. I love my husband , I know he loves me too. And thank God we start with best friend, an then boy/girl fiend into marriage.

So, haven’t found ‘the one’ yet? Maybe they’ve already around you all the time. Just listen to your heart or you can wait until your daughter shows you like Maya did to Will.


Love!

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God will never give me more than He can handle. #ByeTumblr

09:00 utheychan 0 Comments

Time is weird. Really really weird.

I was looking to a woman on a mirror this morning, she looks like me a couple years ago ( except the hair I thought) and how time turns her a little bit different on appearence but a lot of things on the inside.

Yeah, instead of seeing a girl, I saw a woman on the mirror today. To be exact, a mother-to-be.
What? yeah. As shocked as it’s heard, I’m pregnant.

I have been leaving this blog for so long ago, I am well awared of this. But I am not going to hell because of that, am I?
I really have to spare times to write all the story that I skipped before the pregnant. But please kindly let me go with the baby first. :D

I married a best guy ever in my life on December 27 last year. He’s been through all the chapter of my life for 4 years. Up until now I can hardly believed how God keep doing amazing things in our life. The marriage, and now the baby. How can a 25-yo girl are capable to do a great great job as a MOTHER?

Nobody can answer that, but God do.
Thanks to Ashley, a Christian wife blogger that I follow. After I saw the two lines on my test pack ( my hands were so shaking!), I read what she wrote about being Feeling Inadequate. About how she turned “God will never give you more than you can handle” to “God will never give me more than He can handle.”
We’re young.
We haven’t had our own house, or even a car.
We’ve been saving for baby,house and car but we have to wait until next year to withdraw it. (and it’s not that big amount of money!)
God can’t be wrong. There are thousands of marriage couple, ready for a cute kids, settled down and have everything the baby needs but still waiting.

He exactly knows what He’s doing on us. But yet I still feel like I’m cutting the line.
To kill that feeling, I keep telling myself “God will never give me more than He can handle.”

##ignore my cute face, Im ready to be a mom yeah!


Thank you God.
It’s been an honour to be Your precious daughter and son, and You even give us more.



Note: I found a cool website about pregnant, thebump.com and find that I have a raspberry-baby since it’s on the week 8. How cute!

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Migrasi Blog #ByeTumblr

08:57 utheychan 0 Comments

Sebelum punya blog dengan platform Blogger ini, saya nulisnya di Tumblr. Waktu itu awal2 tahun 2009an gitu. Tapi entah gimana akhirnya saya ended up dengan platform ini dan blog tumblr saya alhasil tak terjamah lagi. Jadii...saya akan pindah beberapa post yang menurut saya ok dan memorable disini, dan officially I'll say good bye Tumblr. You've been such a good friend that show many good things in life through those fashion and lifestyle blogger. And I will never forget that I know Nicole Loher from you. Who is she? Saya pernah nulis sedikit disini.
So, enjoy beberapa postingan lama yang bermigrasi dari blog tumblr ke blog yang jumlah postingannya juga tak seberapa ini #hiks

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What is Parenting All About

22:18 utheychan 0 Comments

Jam biologis saya nulis di blog memang sangat bergantung dengan jam tidurnya Rion.

Dan selagi dia tidur pulas di samping saya, saya mulai mengumpulkan segala niat untuk tetap nulis sekalipun gigi dah kering karena nguap terus.
Ini saya bingung temanya apa.
Antara liburan, menyapih, dan what is parenting all about.

Ini hari ketiga cuti panjang Natal dan tahun baru dan saya masih blm benar-benar cuti. Whatsapp tentang kerjaan dari teman kantor tang ting tung terus dr pagi. Not to mention segala kerjaan rumah (di rumah mertua yang kebetulan udah ngga ada embak lagi). And, yang paling drama adalah Rion yang udah kayak menunggu momen cuti saya sejak ribuan tahun yang lalu.

Ditinggal bentar ke toilet nangis.
Digendong utinya ga mau.
Kalau tidur musti gendong atau nenen.
Saya cek mana tahu ada lem di badan yang bikin dia nempel terus sama emaknya, ga ada.
Fuh.

Ga tahu ya kalau anak-anak lainnya, tapi katanya (kata teman-teman saya sih lebih tepatnya) anak dari ibu yang bekerja emang paling tahu gimana bermanja-manja ketika ibunya di rumah.
Dan, saya liburnya dua minggu saja pemirsaaaah. Puas-puasin dah nak.

Manja sama bikin repot agak beda-beda tipis sih. Kalau manja, masih wajar dan sebagai ibu yang tiap hari berperang melawan perasaan bersalah meninggalkan anak untuk bekerja, hari libur memang waktunya 1000% buat anak. Jadi manja masih bisa dimaklumin.
 Yang sedikit agak repot adalah soal menyapih. 

Udah banyak browsing dan nanya temen soal menyapih dengan cinta atau istilah kerennya weaning with love, tapi tetep aja have no idea gimana caranya bikin Rion ngerti kalau dia udah saatnya disapih.
Kalau siang baik waktu saya kerja atau pas weekend, dia udah paham tuh. Nah, pas mau tidur udah mulai si bocil ini di atas angin. Pilihan yang dia kasih cuma dua. Gendong atau nenen. Gendongnya bisa hampir sejam baru mau bener-bener ditidurin. Jadi, nenenin Rion adalah solusi paling cepat tiap malam suapaya dia bisa tidur with less drama.

Dan di liburan ini gw udah bertekat bulat sebulat-bulatnya, Rion akan disapih. Gapap deh gue tiap malam gendong ne anak sampai pegel, yg penting dia terbiasa tidur ga pake nenen dulu.

Hasilnya, di pagi hari ada kantong hitam di bawah mata yamng seakan mengejek saya dan berkata " yakin loh mau nyapih si Rion?"

fuhh #2

menyapih bukan cuma soal mendisiplinkan anak, tapi menurut saya, menyapih adalah mendisiplinkan sang ibu, dalam hal ini adalah gue.


dari lahir Rion memang malem jarang rewel, dan kalaupun nangis lapar, tinggal buka , nenenin deh.. --> maap kl terlalu vulgar hehe

ga ada tuh jam-jam begadang

dan ternyata itu terjadi ketika si bayi sekarang udah bisa teriak, nangis, batuk2in kalau nangis ampe muntah dan semua makan malamnya keluar semua di atas seprei. Cuma buat minta sesuatu yang dia pikir masih haknya. 

Iya sih nak, kamu masih berhak, tapi sayangnya ASI ibumu kurang kooperatif hikshiks.

Dan sepertinya di parenting juga berlaku hal yg sama.. ya ngga sih..
Kayaknya gampang aja gitu ngasih ipad ke anak suapaya ada yg 'ngawasin' pas kita lagi angkat jemuran, atau ngejewer anak ketika dia nakal.

 Seorang ibu perlu mendisiplinkan dirinya terlebih dahulu sebelum dia berhasil mendisplinkan anaknya. That's all parenting is about I think. Don't you?

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Percakapan gak penting sebagai suami istri

22:08 utheychan 0 Comments


Di motor...

 Gue " Bi, Nande habis beli mobil baru lho."
Suami "ohya, apa mobilnya?
Gue "Ford. Putih"
Suami  "Yang tipe apa? berapa kursi? "
Suami  "gak tahu. Yg jelas kursinya harusnya lebih dari 4 ya, soalnya kan dia memang mau cari mobil yg lebih gedhe dari mobil yg lama."

 Pas udah sampe rumah..

 " yang ini bukan mobilnya?" *sambil nunjukin gambar di HP
"Bukan."
"Ini?" 
"Ehm.." * gue mulai ragu dong ya* Kayaknya sih bi.."
"Ah yakin kamu...yang ini kali " *nunjukin gambar mobil Ford yg lain
" Ngga, ngga ada ban serep di belakangnya kok."
"Kamu yakin itu mobilnya Ford? Jangan-jangan bukan"

 Oke, ini pembicaraan sudah berlangsung lebih dari 15 menit, so...

 " Bi, kamu tahu istrimu ini ga tahu menahu soal jenis dan tipe mobil. jadi kalau aku sampai bisa bilang merknya Ford, berarti itu udah 80% bener lah kira2 ya..So, can we stop this conversation and get move on our life rather than our friend's new car? maybe thinking about having one?"

 hehe..gak penting sih memang

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